Jeep Freak, yes, I've noticed that e-benefits is slow in updating. But at least it's updated.
Yes...there is a story behind the MEBs for my husband and I. I actually broke first....back in 2004. It took 4 surgeons, two surguries, a third surgery to reverse an unsuccessful surgery, limping in front of my troops while a commander for two years and trying to set the example as "someone who is broke, trying to get fixed, and still staying physically fit while on a profile and not being a couch potato", and finally DQ'd from a deployment tasking before my PCM decided to "call a spade a spade" and recommended an MEB back in Feb 2010. First MEB was perm retirement, then approved for LAS. My husband's injury occurred during squadron intermural sports....and he had about one year of trying progressively more agressive treatment before a DQ'd deployment forced an MEB (legacy) on him.
I, too, am angry at the system because of the position my family is currently in: when my husband was retired in late Summer '11, we were told that my MEB (legacy) would be concluded by Christmas. So, we moved my husband and two teenagers over 1300 miles to our final "home" so that they would not transfer schools mid-year. I moved into a travel trailer in the base's FAMCAMP. Then we learned that my MEB would be under IDES and take up to 295 days! My daughter is special needs and requires a parent be home with her before and after school. That works when two parents are under one roof and can "flex" their duty schedules. We thought a 3-month separation would be do-able. It doesn't work with me 1300 miles away for over 6 months now. So, my husband is unable to work...he's "Mr. Mom" full time right now. Had we known last summer that the IDES process for me would take essentially one school year, we may have made a different choice for our family. I cope with the mantra of "every day I serve, that High-3 pay gets a little bit higher!" I've been forced to get into my teenagers' world of Facebook, Skype, texting, and other media in order to stay a part of their lives and the lives of their new friends at their new home and school.
I can see where the new IDES system was meant to be a good thing...especially for the young troops and those Wounded Warriors from the war. But it's had unintended consequences for folks like you and me. I don't know what to tell you to help you keep your sanity and to deal with the frustration of the waiting game.....