I am 9 years in service with depression anxiety and SI for the last 3 years. My wife who witnessed suicidal behavior for months called for help a few months ago and I was sent to inpatient for almost a week. After that I had PHP and IOP. All my therapists at IOP and PHP gave good remarks and said that I was agreeable and participated. The PHP therapist said that I have PTSD but it never made it to my medical record. I even took the meds they prescribed to me at inpatient. During those few weeks at PHP/IOP, I had an emergency move from my home to new one due to none of the plumbing not working in my home this made me absent for 3 days. I also willingly took off Presidents and MLK day as a mental health day and I took a half day for a group on base that I was voted President for and I didn’t want to miss my responsibility so I asked the PHP therapist if I could go and she OK’d it and asked me to just tell my treatment team on base which I did. These 5 and a 1/2 days off of a 8 week program made the therapist at the base mark me as refusing to participate (below) and she took me from the program two weeks before it was supposed to end with no warning to improve. I asked to switch therapists due to my therapist being argumentative, not spending time speaking with me at all (5 minute therapy sessions where she lectures me on next steps), and disregarding my concerns. I had asked to switch her at the very beginning within the first month of me being treated as I requested a Christian, male therapist.
After I asked twice to switch therapists, she sent me to a 4 week inpatient to monitor me as my wife informed her I was still self harming. The hospital records said I was compliant and participated in all activities. After I returned from the hospital, the therapist had a treatment team meeting where they made me wait outside for 40 minutes while they spoke to the therapist without me and they spent an additional hour after they spoke with me speaking privately. My command started asking me weird questions about my relationship after that and one even said what happened at the hospital I heard you had some issues in your marriage cheating or something? I addressed that immediately and said nothing of that sort happened and my medical records that I ordered don’t mention anything about that either. When I addressed this malicious rumor in an email and mentioned that I have asked 3 times now to switch therapists and am being ignored, I was finally switched from that therapist. Two people on my command team kept attempting to blame my wife for my conditions. They said that I wasn’t showing any issues until after I got married which is a lie because I had some symptoms before I met my wife which my immediate supervisor was well aware of and suggested a silent retreat that I attended to try and get emotionally stable. This same supervisor harassing me about my wife did not stop saying things like my marriage is toxic because we agreed to not have me spend time alone with other female patients (the hospital also had rules to not have patients of the opposite sex be in eachothers rooms and to not have physical contact in anyway-so I could not understand why he was attacking my marriage for having the same rules.) He kept going on and on asking me questions about working and deploying with these arrangements I have with my wife. I asked him to stop even after the email and he didn’t. Therefore, I had to ask his superior to tell him to stop trying to blame my wife for my mental health. This supervisor made fun of my relationship with my wife in the past accusing her of cat fishing me saying her pics were fake and also saying our marriage wouldn’t last it’s just my first of many when we got engaged. I brushed the latter off not wanting to ruffle anyone’s feathers. But now I see how the intrusiveness started.
It has been two months since I returned from the hospital. The therapist I switched from changed my 6 months of major depression, anxiety, ocd and ADD diagnosis’ to OCPD only and recommended admin sep. Fast forward a few weeks after that, I just received a RIC via email which had no deadline attached to the email or from the superior that gave it to me. My attendance, performance annd everything is fine at work (according to my supervisor) and two of the command are telling me that my personal life is the only issue. I have had no disputes, police reports or any arguing, bad experiences with my wife. It is sad that I am continually defending her and these people are deflecting from my conditions. I sat on the RIC for a few days to review it and run it by a few people.
Prior to the holiday weekend the supervisor who was bashing my marriage and another person in command asked me if I have signed the RIC. I told them no because I need to review it. The one who has been harassing me said I am supposed to get it back within 3 days and that I would have until Monday morning to sign. However the RIC document was supposed to be given to me two months ago when I returned from the hospital. So why the rush now?
I am not sure how to respond to this RIC as it has several incorrect statements that lines me up for an admin sep without disability and states so clearly. However, besides my mental state I have several physical conditions, including arthritis in my back which my PCM is aware of. I don’t want to sign something that has so many inaccuracies and blatantly tells me I can not qualify for disability.
Redacted (member) was seen by a Redacted Mental Health provider treatment to address the following problems: Ongoing emotional and interpersonal dysregulation and a pervasive negative pattern of behaviors, thoughts and attitudes resulting in a self-harming behavior, difficulties in his occupational, psychological, and interpersonal domains, and traits that makes adjusting to ongoing changes extremely challenging to manage and results in treatment resistance.
- Member received mental health care at a high echelon due to ongoing and worsening problems, minimization, and poor engagement/insight from Redacted (6 months of treatment.) Despite care in Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP - 5 days a week), Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP - 3 days a week) and a Residential program, member continued to state he needed more therapy without displaying the ability to practice and execute the skills/tools learned, which were met w/his rigid, inflexible, fearful behaviors and attitudes that resulted in lack of participation/attendance.
Findings of the member's time with multiple treatment facilities resulted in a diagnosis that could result in significant impairment in member's functioning if the skills/tools are not utilized; while member has the capacity to use these skills with no mental nor physical limitations stopping this, he may continue to struggle due to external factors w/in his work, family, and personal domains. --
- Members condition is complex with personality disorder being identified as the primary diagnosis and NOT a result of service or exacerbated by service, thus it is an unsuiting condition and does not qualify for disability. Based on findings, the member was diagnosed w/DSM-5 disorders): F60.5 Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and F33.1 Major depressive disorder, recurrent episode, moderate with anxious distress Dependent Personality traits. The disorder continues to worsen leader to member's inability to function in a military environment being significantly impaired. Member does currently meet the retention standards for continued military service; however, if current problems persist and requires continued mental health monitoring retention standards will NOT be met. Member did not meet the criteria for a PTSD diagnosis and an AMRO determined an MEB was not required.
All of the bold is from the first therapist who did not have conversations with me and whose main goal was the get me admin sep. she is now PCS’d and I have a very good therapist who I intend to write along with the patient advocate to attempt to amend these inaccurate statements. How can I get my command to listen to my side and also amend this prior to me signing without having negative repercussions? This document prevents me of receiving the care I deserve and neglects the major conditions I have that will affect many people including whoever I’m deployed with if not documented and treated accurately. They want to avoid having an MEB so bad that they’re willing to lie. I was also advised to file an EO against the supervisor but I am very careful to not have anyone retaliate as much of their conversations I am not present at and they can make worse decisions against me. Currently I have excellent feedback. But my wife has several videos of me being angry and out of control over small to large things that she hasn’t shown anyone yet. We want to show my therapist for him to get a better understanding of what I’m going through because obviously I control myself at work and don’t have episodes there or I just call off if I wake up feeling unable to make it through the day.
After I asked twice to switch therapists, she sent me to a 4 week inpatient to monitor me as my wife informed her I was still self harming. The hospital records said I was compliant and participated in all activities. After I returned from the hospital, the therapist had a treatment team meeting where they made me wait outside for 40 minutes while they spoke to the therapist without me and they spent an additional hour after they spoke with me speaking privately. My command started asking me weird questions about my relationship after that and one even said what happened at the hospital I heard you had some issues in your marriage cheating or something? I addressed that immediately and said nothing of that sort happened and my medical records that I ordered don’t mention anything about that either. When I addressed this malicious rumor in an email and mentioned that I have asked 3 times now to switch therapists and am being ignored, I was finally switched from that therapist. Two people on my command team kept attempting to blame my wife for my conditions. They said that I wasn’t showing any issues until after I got married which is a lie because I had some symptoms before I met my wife which my immediate supervisor was well aware of and suggested a silent retreat that I attended to try and get emotionally stable. This same supervisor harassing me about my wife did not stop saying things like my marriage is toxic because we agreed to not have me spend time alone with other female patients (the hospital also had rules to not have patients of the opposite sex be in eachothers rooms and to not have physical contact in anyway-so I could not understand why he was attacking my marriage for having the same rules.) He kept going on and on asking me questions about working and deploying with these arrangements I have with my wife. I asked him to stop even after the email and he didn’t. Therefore, I had to ask his superior to tell him to stop trying to blame my wife for my mental health. This supervisor made fun of my relationship with my wife in the past accusing her of cat fishing me saying her pics were fake and also saying our marriage wouldn’t last it’s just my first of many when we got engaged. I brushed the latter off not wanting to ruffle anyone’s feathers. But now I see how the intrusiveness started.
It has been two months since I returned from the hospital. The therapist I switched from changed my 6 months of major depression, anxiety, ocd and ADD diagnosis’ to OCPD only and recommended admin sep. Fast forward a few weeks after that, I just received a RIC via email which had no deadline attached to the email or from the superior that gave it to me. My attendance, performance annd everything is fine at work (according to my supervisor) and two of the command are telling me that my personal life is the only issue. I have had no disputes, police reports or any arguing, bad experiences with my wife. It is sad that I am continually defending her and these people are deflecting from my conditions. I sat on the RIC for a few days to review it and run it by a few people.
Prior to the holiday weekend the supervisor who was bashing my marriage and another person in command asked me if I have signed the RIC. I told them no because I need to review it. The one who has been harassing me said I am supposed to get it back within 3 days and that I would have until Monday morning to sign. However the RIC document was supposed to be given to me two months ago when I returned from the hospital. So why the rush now?
I am not sure how to respond to this RIC as it has several incorrect statements that lines me up for an admin sep without disability and states so clearly. However, besides my mental state I have several physical conditions, including arthritis in my back which my PCM is aware of. I don’t want to sign something that has so many inaccuracies and blatantly tells me I can not qualify for disability.
Redacted (member) was seen by a Redacted Mental Health provider treatment to address the following problems: Ongoing emotional and interpersonal dysregulation and a pervasive negative pattern of behaviors, thoughts and attitudes resulting in a self-harming behavior, difficulties in his occupational, psychological, and interpersonal domains, and traits that makes adjusting to ongoing changes extremely challenging to manage and results in treatment resistance.
- Member received mental health care at a high echelon due to ongoing and worsening problems, minimization, and poor engagement/insight from Redacted (6 months of treatment.) Despite care in Partial Hospitalization Program (PHP - 5 days a week), Intensive Outpatient Program (IOP - 3 days a week) and a Residential program, member continued to state he needed more therapy without displaying the ability to practice and execute the skills/tools learned, which were met w/his rigid, inflexible, fearful behaviors and attitudes that resulted in lack of participation/attendance.
Findings of the member's time with multiple treatment facilities resulted in a diagnosis that could result in significant impairment in member's functioning if the skills/tools are not utilized; while member has the capacity to use these skills with no mental nor physical limitations stopping this, he may continue to struggle due to external factors w/in his work, family, and personal domains. --
- Members condition is complex with personality disorder being identified as the primary diagnosis and NOT a result of service or exacerbated by service, thus it is an unsuiting condition and does not qualify for disability. Based on findings, the member was diagnosed w/DSM-5 disorders): F60.5 Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder and F33.1 Major depressive disorder, recurrent episode, moderate with anxious distress Dependent Personality traits. The disorder continues to worsen leader to member's inability to function in a military environment being significantly impaired. Member does currently meet the retention standards for continued military service; however, if current problems persist and requires continued mental health monitoring retention standards will NOT be met. Member did not meet the criteria for a PTSD diagnosis and an AMRO determined an MEB was not required.
All of the bold is from the first therapist who did not have conversations with me and whose main goal was the get me admin sep. she is now PCS’d and I have a very good therapist who I intend to write along with the patient advocate to attempt to amend these inaccurate statements. How can I get my command to listen to my side and also amend this prior to me signing without having negative repercussions? This document prevents me of receiving the care I deserve and neglects the major conditions I have that will affect many people including whoever I’m deployed with if not documented and treated accurately. They want to avoid having an MEB so bad that they’re willing to lie. I was also advised to file an EO against the supervisor but I am very careful to not have anyone retaliate as much of their conversations I am not present at and they can make worse decisions against me. Currently I have excellent feedback. But my wife has several videos of me being angry and out of control over small to large things that she hasn’t shown anyone yet. We want to show my therapist for him to get a better understanding of what I’m going through because obviously I control myself at work and don’t have episodes there or I just call off if I wake up feeling unable to make it through the day.
